9 December 2020

DO YOU TELL YOURSELF STORIES?

The mind lies, the body does not lie.

We are so clever that we have learned to keep quiet in the face of uncomfortable situations. Verbal communication and our cognitive are able to find words, justifications, stories. Stories that when told well seem true, they save us from embarrassing situations. The problem arises when we believe the stories we tell ourselves, losing contact with reality and stopping working without even realizing it.

I always start the sessions talking, about ten minutes, sitting in the armchairs or in front of the video. Two adults talking to each other, telling each other things.

Then the conversation takes a certain direction: the verbal exchange could take hours in search of many whys and wherefores, of suppositions, fantasies, projections, sympathies, provocations.

How can I help you if I get involved in your story? My opinion is not the solution to your problems, the solution is inside you. How can we understand, or rather, feel what is right for you?

We ask the body for help.

Through the staging we move, we represent what we are talking about, we give a shape, a color, a physical space. When the body moves, even if only from one chair to another, tensions appear, sensations that emerge clearly through the gaze, the posture, the voice.

Thanks to the body and its truth, emotions emerge: together we learn to know them, to accept them and integrate them so that we can bring our language to a more complete, more authentic and congruent level.

There are many forms that the body can choose to express itself: moving, dancing, singing, screaming, crying, laughing, painting, coloring, building, sculpting … playing!

Creativity allows us to express what we feel.

Through the game and its symbolic dimension, we can contact our truth, the real need, without many turns of phrase.

At that moment when we are immersed in the game, in representation, in creative expression, resources clearly emerge.

It is precisely in that moment of recognition that we realize we have different resources today than we did then.

During the first phase of the session you feel like you are doing meaningless things.

I love the perplexed glances of the first times, of those who look at me with that expression with the subtitles “what the hell is she making me doing?”. I help you to bring out your pieces, your truths in a spontaneous way, following the body, the most authentic expression. At this stage it is not important to find a meaning, we are interested in expressing, in bringing out.

Growing up means learning to endure frustration, that is, to accept the wait between the moment of desire and the moment of satisfaction.

If it is not clear what you need, how can you desire? If it is not clear what you want, how can you achieve satisfaction?

This is exactly what happens in session when we contact our most authentic part: we bring out pieces of truth.

In the second phase I help you to rebuild, to put the pieces together, to integrate: your identity emerges more and more clearly.

Together we give a direction, a form, an orientation so that you can make the best use of creativity, moving towards autonomy, towards your affirmation with respect for others.